Comments on: Don’t Stand So Close To Me: Introverts and Proxemics http://spectatrix.com/2007/03/28/dont-stand-so-close-to-me-introverts-and-proxemics/ the passionate introvert Fri, 30 Mar 2012 07:25:30 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Chocolatesa http://spectatrix.com/2007/03/28/dont-stand-so-close-to-me-introverts-and-proxemics/comment-page-1/#comment-752 Chocolatesa Thu, 10 Apr 2008 16:31:33 +0000 http://spectatrix.com/2007/03/28/dont-stand-so-close-to-me-introverts-and-proxemics/#comment-752 <p>It doesn't bother me much, I'm used to being crammed on over-full public transport twice a day. I either doze off or sit thinking in my own world, or subtly studying the people around me.</p> It doesn’t bother me much, I’m used to being crammed on over-full public transport twice a day. I either doze off or sit thinking in my own world, or subtly studying the people around me.

]]> By: Karla http://spectatrix.com/2007/03/28/dont-stand-so-close-to-me-introverts-and-proxemics/comment-page-1/#comment-46 Karla Tue, 10 Apr 2007 20:02:12 +0000 http://spectatrix.com/2007/03/28/dont-stand-so-close-to-me-introverts-and-proxemics/#comment-46 <p>The space issue can be tricky sometimes. I agree wholeheartedly that being in a crowded place is an anxiety-attack provoking situation. However, that being said, when I'm in a professional setting and forced to be close to new and/or unknown people, it's not so bad. In fact, whenever it's necessary, I sometimes utilize physical proximity as an intimidation tactic (which is hilarious since I'm 5'2). It flies in the face of my intense introvertedness, and afterwards I am always even more exhausted than if I had been in a crowd. The emotion carries me through the moment I guess.</p> The space issue can be tricky sometimes. I agree wholeheartedly that being in a crowded place is an anxiety-attack provoking situation. However, that being said, when I’m in a professional setting and forced to be close to new and/or unknown people, it’s not so bad. In fact, whenever it’s necessary, I sometimes utilize physical proximity as an intimidation tactic (which is hilarious since I’m 5’2). It flies in the face of my intense introvertedness, and afterwards I am always even more exhausted than if I had been in a crowd. The emotion carries me through the moment I guess.

]]> By: spectatrix http://spectatrix.com/2007/03/28/dont-stand-so-close-to-me-introverts-and-proxemics/comment-page-1/#comment-35 spectatrix Sun, 08 Apr 2007 03:25:33 +0000 http://spectatrix.com/2007/03/28/dont-stand-so-close-to-me-introverts-and-proxemics/#comment-35 <p>Ben:</p> <p>I really relate about feeling anxious and edgy in crowds. Just last weekend Joe and I went to Fisherman's Wharf in San Francisco, probably the most crowded and touristy area of the city (serves us right for going there, I guess), and I had one of those awful crowd moments. We were standing in line for a streetcar and a tour group decided they all needed to board together, meaning the stragglers crammed right in front of us to join their friends. When this kind of thing happens, I get really panicky and restless, and feel like I need to escape the situation right away. But since we needed to get home, I stayed in line and counted the seconds until I could leave the crowd behind.</p> Ben:

I really relate about feeling anxious and edgy in crowds. Just last weekend Joe and I went to Fisherman’s Wharf in San Francisco, probably the most crowded and touristy area of the city (serves us right for going there, I guess), and I had one of those awful crowd moments. We were standing in line for a streetcar and a tour group decided they all needed to board together, meaning the stragglers crammed right in front of us to join their friends. When this kind of thing happens, I get really panicky and restless, and feel like I need to escape the situation right away. But since we needed to get home, I stayed in line and counted the seconds until I could leave the crowd behind.

]]> By: Ben http://spectatrix.com/2007/03/28/dont-stand-so-close-to-me-introverts-and-proxemics/comment-page-1/#comment-31 Ben Sat, 07 Apr 2007 03:32:15 +0000 http://spectatrix.com/2007/03/28/dont-stand-so-close-to-me-introverts-and-proxemics/#comment-31 <p>I'm somewhat of an introvert, and while I can deal with crowds, they often make me feel very anxious and edgy. I prefer people to keep their distance, and I've evolved an unfortunate habit of becoming more aloof and rude the closer people get to me.</p> <p>This can be rather unfortunate since there tend to be crowds fairly often where I live. C'est la vie.</p> I’m somewhat of an introvert, and while I can deal with crowds, they often make me feel very anxious and edgy. I prefer people to keep their distance, and I’ve evolved an unfortunate habit of becoming more aloof and rude the closer people get to me.

This can be rather unfortunate since there tend to be crowds fairly often where I live. C’est la vie.

]]> By: spectatrix http://spectatrix.com/2007/03/28/dont-stand-so-close-to-me-introverts-and-proxemics/comment-page-1/#comment-27 spectatrix Fri, 06 Apr 2007 20:29:22 +0000 http://spectatrix.com/2007/03/28/dont-stand-so-close-to-me-introverts-and-proxemics/#comment-27 <p>Carolyn:</p> <p>I love it! "Married to me or born to me." I'll have to try that out next time someone gets a little too close.</p> Carolyn:

I love it! “Married to me or born to me.” I’ll have to try that out next time someone gets a little too close.

]]> By: Carolyn http://spectatrix.com/2007/03/28/dont-stand-so-close-to-me-introverts-and-proxemics/comment-page-1/#comment-24 Carolyn Thu, 05 Apr 2007 12:19:59 +0000 http://spectatrix.com/2007/03/28/dont-stand-so-close-to-me-introverts-and-proxemics/#comment-24 <p>I am an introvert. When it comes to determining the amount of space needed, I must have control otherwise the need to flee takes over. When I am with one person this can be controlled fairly easily unles someone who you dislike is purposely "in your face". But then again , escape ASAP works in this case. In a crowd situation, I still much prefer one-on-one communication, so there is more control and less stress. I stay away from the exta extroverts who want to be 5 inches from your face. Anything within 5 inches needs to either be married to me or born to me.</p> I am an introvert. When it comes to determining the amount of space needed, I must have control otherwise the need to flee takes over. When I am with one person this can be controlled fairly easily unles someone who you dislike is purposely “in your face”. But then again , escape ASAP works in this case. In a crowd situation, I still much prefer one-on-one communication, so there is more control and less stress. I stay away from the exta extroverts who want to be 5 inches from your face. Anything within 5 inches needs to either be married to me or born to me.

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